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Marianne  Jordan's avatar

what you may be too young to remember is that President John F. Kennedy did speak of bold ideas and moving forward, to the moon for one thing, but also to a vision for the future. It has been a while.

Shevek M Barnhart's avatar

I’m a 71 yr old gay, married chef who has often found myself using many of the things you’ve written about here. An example:

My husband and I (together 33yrs) live in and owned a restaurant in a blue town surrounded by very deep red counties, that are filled with ranchers and farmers. In 2002 I heard several of them say some version of the following: I hate faggots, but those guys treat you right.

That was all I needed. We both didn’t care about gay marriage, but wanted civil unions with all the coverage marriage gives a couple. (We are actually married for 13 yrs.) I convinced these people that we needed legal protections by bringing up situations that they could relate to. Like the survivor after the other’s death would have to pay taxes on what they would inherit not being actual spouses. That doctors could keep us from visiting our sick other half in a hospital, or even go as for as throwing out medical powers of attorney. Having a relative get a judge to throw out a will and give the estate to that relative, even though they never spoke to the deceased. And it goes on….

The point is, without being condescending or belittling them I got them to support civil unions for gays, and leave the word marriage to the churches.

They follow me to where ever I’m cooking to this day, because I treated them as a fellow human despite their initial assessment of my husband and me.

This is a lesson Dems need to learn! Thank you for this piece.

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